Your husband doesn’t need to be boring, just content
While aimlessly scrolling over the weekend I came across a Tweet that said something along the lines of, boring men make the best husbands. And chile, I rolled my eyes so hard because I absolutely hate this.
The idea that men (or our partners) can only be thoughtful, trustworthy, devoted if they’re “boring” makes absolutely no sense. Who wants to spend the rest of their life with someone who isn’t interesting?
In my opinion, what you really want in a partner is someone who’s content. And by definition, content (not content like social media LOL) means “in a state of peaceful happiness.”
When you and your partner are content with one another, your relationship, and marriage—there are no boring days.
You feel joy in each other’s company and don’t need to look outside of that for fulfillment.
Right before meeting my husband, I was dating a man for two years who wasn’t content. His boys were who he’d prefer to be with and if they all happened to be busy, then, we’d have our time together. Dates were few and far between, because he always had other plans—or was busy looking for something else to do instead of being with me. He prioritized traveling with his guy friends and in that time span we never once took a trip together.
He’s someone most people wouldn’t call “boring” because he was always out and in the mix. And I found myself chasing him from day party to day party every weekend. Trying to keep up and get in where I could fit in on his schedule.
He was in search of something outside of us—whether it was gratification, excitement, or probably a different girlfriend.
And let me tell you—there’s nothing more boring than a person who can’t just sit still. They’re never satisfied. Always looking for the next place to be, scrolling in search of that dopamine fix, and can’t hold a conversation for more than a minute.
When I met David, that was when I realized it wasn’t “boring” or “straight-laced” I was looking for. It was a man who was content with me and us.
There’s never a dull moment in our household. Whether we’re sitting on the couch bingeing our favorite shows, traveling to new places together, trying new restaurants or going out to the movies for date night—being in each other’s company and presence is more than enough.
We don’t constantly need to do “group” trips, or “group” dates to fill the void. We prioritize quality time over being out, just to say we did something.
We’re content.
As someone who dated A LOT, before I met my husband, and who opened myself up to meeting maaaannnyy different people during that time. I will say to you that nothing beats the relationship in which you’re both in a state of peaceful happiness with one another. Don’t stop searching until *that* is what you find. Everything else will fall into place.