The rules are fake

A reoccurring conversation David and I have is about how we’re unlearning a lot of what was instilled in us when we were younger regarding success.

We’re both the oldest children and were basically taught that sticking to a consistent, straight and narrow path, working our way up, being humble, always giving 110%, being a team player, etc, etc, etc. would get us far in life.

And to an extent, this absolutely has. We’ve both done very well for ourselves and made pretty great strides in our careers. But right now, what we’re both aiming for is that *next* level. The level of success and financial security that has made all these years worth it.

Within that, we’ve realized that the rules we once received and the “straight and narrow” path drilled into us, don’t really matter. This next wave of building will rely heavily on being completely OWT of our comfort zones and going against what we once thought was most important.

For David, and his career in finance. He’ll need to shed himself of the laid back, “keep your head down and do the work,” mentality that relies mainly on his merit and skills. He’s by far much more intelligent, savvy, and experienced than some folks in the positions he’s eyeing. But, in order to get there, he’ll have tap into charisma, relationships, being much more outspoken, and truly put himself out there.

For me, I have to abandon the perfectionism, become more unfiltered, and less curated. I have to embrace a less is more mentality and practice working smarter, not harder, which has been veeerrry tough for me to wrap my type-A mind around.

But what I’ve come to realize, is that’s what reaching your goals in life is often about. Letting go of what we once knew to be true. Forgetting the rules and putting ourselves out there in ways we never could have imagined. Walking in faith and giving ourselves permission to be fearless.

xo, Aisha Beau