You deserve the support

My mom moved in with us a month and a half ago and I’ve loved it so far.

I’ve been sharing how we’ve been out an about, putting together the nursery, the food she’s been making for David and I—yet sometimes, I do have some pause about it.

I’m 35-years-old and my mom is here making me lunch, helping us with laundry, groceries, and some home maintenance. Is this immature? Do people now think I’m not self-sufficient?

As the eldest daughter, I’ve always had an unspoken responsibility to take care of things myself. To be hyper-independent, an overachiever, and when I left home at 17 for college, I basically never looked back.

Thrusted myself into adulthood, hard work, grinding, making a name for myself and up until meeting David, didn’t allow myself to rely on the help of anyone else.

Fast-forward 18 years, and in that time I’ve climbed my way up the corporate ladder, pivoted to entrepreneurship, fought my way out of debt, navigated depression and breaking generational curses, married a man who genuinely loves and supports me, bought our first home together.

And now, as I sit here ready to embark on the next chapter, having a baby—hell yes I want my mom *physically* back in my day to day life. Yes, I need her support, love, affection, and expertise. And no, this doesn’t minimize all I’ve accomplished or who I’ve grown to be.

Not to mention, this is a luxury not a lot of people have—parents who are truly supportive, live nearby, or alive, to be with them during times like this. So, the gratitude I have runs deep.

I think those of us who are hyper-independent, eldest daughters, and have had to rely on ourselves for most of our lives have *such* a hard time softening because of just how hard we’ve had to become to get here.

We worry that all we’ve done before this will be in vain. When bay-bee…getting help, genuine support, love, and tender care is what we deserve.

So, don’t fight it. When someone’s willing to be there for you welcome it with open arms. Embrace this part of your journey too. It’s just as important.

xo, Aisha Beau