When brainstorming ideas for what I wanted to write about in anticipation of Valentine’s Day, I knew I was going to step outside of the box. Yes, my blog covers self-care as a whole, but I didn’t want to be cliché and do one of those “10 Mantras to Say on Valentine’s Day to Showcase Self-Love” type stories. Such a snooze! With two weeks til V-Day and since I haven’t yet touched on the topic of sex and pleasure, I decided why not start now. After all, sex is absolutely part of self-care—and pleasuring yourself, well that’s an embodiment of self-love.
In recent years, I’ve noticed some positive disruption in the sex toy industry. There’s an increasing number of women-owned brands aimed at reducing the pleasure gap in an innovative way. No longer are flesh toned phallic rods the object of desire, instead, we’re opting for more sleek and modern toys that get to the root of our pleasure points. Toys that can either be used when we’re relaxing by ourselves or along with a partner.
Orgasms are the ultimate form of self-care. Not only do they feel amazing, but they come with a host of other benefits including helping ease stress and anxiety, clearing your skin, boosting your immune system, improving sleep, anti-aging and more. So, here are a few brands that’ll help you get there a little more frequently and easily.
Dame’s mission is to openly empower the sexual experiences of womankind by designing well-engineered sex toys. As one of the pioneering brands to even mention the term “pleasure gap,” Dame utilizes research from real people to create toys for sex that are versatile and highly effective.
Some product highlights are the Fin ($75) which can be attached to you or a partner’s fingers, the Eva II ($135) a hands-free vibrator that tucks under your labia to provide stimulation during sex, and the Pom ($95) a more classic yet versatile vibrator that bends to your needs.
I personally have the Pom and thought it’d only work when I’m by myself but I was pleasantly surprised to see that it’s great for when you’re with a partner as well. I love that it literally fits in the palm of my hand and is so easy to manipulate. I could really go the distance! They’ve also recently launched the Pillo ($95), a pillow you can use during sex, which is great. I can imagine it’ll help get those angles right to ensure you orgasm every time, may need to get one myself! Want to get your hands on one of these? Dame is offering my readers 10% off when using the code IKNOWAISHA.
Chakrubs takes wellness to the next level with their 100% safe and all-natural crystal sex toys, which are aimed to bring a sense of sacredness to your playtime. We’ve heard of crystals being used for meditation and protection due to their ancient healing properties, why not bring this sense of intention into the bedroom? Chakrubs’ uniquely-made sex toys help their users explore what it means to be activated in your own sensual body.
For Valentine’s Day try The Heart Chakrub ($169 original or $139 slim) or Rose Yoni Egg ($70). Each of which is sculpted from pure rose quartz, the crystal that evokes unconditional love by speaking directly to the heart chakra.
I’m not going to lie, I’ve never been the biggest fan of insertion toys because they can get uncomfortable. I got the Heart Chakrub in slim and along with the fact that the size is perfect for me, the smooth surface allowed for an amazing sensation. It’s also just so beautiful, I instantly fell in love!
Unbound has it all. This quirky brand understands that sex and intimacy is an experience, and they offer an array of products to enhance these moments. From vibrators, lubes and liquids, to jewelry and accessories Unbound has you covered. The brand is all about fun and inclusive conversations that help others explore and enjoy their sex lives.
My favorite is the Squish ($99), a clitoral vibrator that strengthens in intensity as you squeeze. I was able to customize its vibration patterns to create one that worked best for me. Sometimes certain vibrators can be so intense that you orgasm so quickly, but the Squish really helped elongate the experience.
What’s also great about Unbound is they understand that sex toys can be a bit pricey and don’t want that to deter you—so they offer interest-free payment installments on orders over $50! Unbound also offers a quarterly subscription box to help keep things interesting all year long.